Atheists Against Christian Parenting

The attached video is of Richard Dawkins, an avowed atheist speaking about why he thinks children should not be indoctrinated in religion. Part two will be attached to my next blog.

Recently, there has been a rash of books written by atheists vilifying religion and blaming it for the woes of this world. One best-selling book generated a wave of controversy because it suggested that efforts be made to eradicate religion. The author also takes aim at parents who teach their children religion, calling it a form of child abuse.

Here’s their logic (as far as I can see it). There is no God. Humankind invented God and created religion. Religion is destructive in that it polarizes people, and therefore, causes wars and all sorts of atrocities. The reason religion continues to thrive is that religious parents indoctrinate their children. Therefore, stop allowing the indoctrination of children and the world will become atheistic and wonderfully peaceful.

First of all, let me touch on the things that I agree with. Humanity has suffered much in the name of religion. Also, there are some religious groups in the world that teach violence to their children. There are also many religious parents worldwide that indoctrinate their children, or in other words, tell them what to think instead of teaching them how to think. I agree that all of these things are inappropriate parental behavior.

However, the author in my estimation, has built a very flimsy argument when it comes to Christianity.

Yes, the history of Christianity gets demerits for violence, but to blame present day Christianity for the mistakes of those in the past who did wrong in the name of Christianity is hardly fair. That would be like calling for the end of today’s German culture because at one point it spawned misguided people who caused wars.

The very word Christian means Christ-like or follower of Christ. Everyone who has read the Gospels even once knows that Jesus promoted love, forgiveness, humility and godliness. He did not promote violence, war and insurrection.

The Body of Christ worldwide has come a long way and is a force for good on our planet. When a catastrophe puts people in harms way anywhere in the world, it’s the Christians and Christian relief organizations that dig the deepest and run to care. Millions of Christians and Christian churches worldwide reach out to help and love their families, neighbors and communities every day. These heartfelt charitable acts are a big part of what it is to live a Christian life.

It’s hard to study the history of Western Civilization without seeing the amazingly wonderful impact that Christianity and individual Christians, compelled by their Faith, have had on the world today.

For a great summary read this link:  http://crossandquill.com/journey/?page_id=267

Furthermore, what is it that Christian parents are teaching their children? If you examine the words in red (Jesus’ teaching), you’ll find that a large percentage of what he taught wasn’t about what we believe, but about who we are and how we behave. We teach our children to love, to be caring, kind, generous and considerate of others, to be involved in their communities, to be team players and to be respectful of others who have contrary opinions or beliefs. How can this be damaging to our planet?

Going back to the general arguments about religion being a planet damaging force, studies show that children raised in religion are happier, more other-focused, and less prone to get involved with crime and high-risk behavior. They even tend to exercise more, eat better, and volunteer more frequently.

(Check one of the studies here:  http://www.youthandreligion.org/news/preliminary.html )

A brief study of history will show even the casual reader that things like political agendas, territorial disputes, racial differences and yes, even atheism (the murder of countless religious people in the name of communism, for the sake of the state) have been behind some of the greatest carnages visited on mankind. Should we forbid the teaching of politics, patriotism, property rights, racial uniqueness and atheism?

If your children are old enough, have a chat with them about what the atheists believe and are saying. Perhaps even let them read this blog and help them think it through. Our children need to know their Faith well enough that they can refute this kind of distorted logic when it’s leveled at them.

(RICK OSBORNE / Christian Author, Speaker & Bible Teacher)

Encouragement From the Real Manger Scene

Don’t you adore the beauty of a manger scene: Mother, husband and child all looking so incredibly serene, backlit by the luminous soft glow of lamplight. Comfortably cuddled in a rustic, but poetically picture-perfect stable. Wholly contented, well-groomed farm animals all gazing on in rapt attention alongside a reverent audience of admiring onlookers. Everyone dressed in their finest garments, all colored with the same delicate and matching peaceful pastel colors. It’s all so perfect and romantic!

If you’ve already detected a gentle note of sarcasm, you need to hear that I know that these beautiful scenes are the work of well meaning and talented artists, who are merely trying to capture the wonder of this amazing moment.

However, most of us know that the wise men didn’t arrive until close to two years later, the stable was likely a not so picture-perfect cave cut into the hillside, the shepherds had just run from the fields and were very possibly not wearing their temple-best, and the animals were more than probably smelly and not quite so attentive.

Granted, the luminous back lighting is probably accurate.

How about Mom and Dad? Although I’m sure that Mary and Joseph were elated by the confirmations that God sent through the local visitors and in awe of their first born child, was everything parent-perfect in Bethlehem? First you have to remember that Mary and Joseph were normal people and regular parents who struggled with many of the same issues that we struggle with.

Now, if you can, put aside the traditional imagery and try to imagine yourself in Mary and Joseph’s sandals, and see if you can get an idea of what things were really like for these new parents. Honestly ask yourself, what would you be going through and feeling if this had been you.

Although accepting, Mary and Joseph were probably struggling with the fact that their childhood visions of marriage, family and happily-ever-after had been irretrievably altered by God’s agenda for the planet. Mary was close to full term and in that stage where, with everything inside her, she wanted the baby to be outside of her. They probably feared for the lives of Mary and the baby because there were some who thought that Mary should be stoned because her baby was conceived out of wedlock. Also, their story about the virgin birth was most likely met with skepticism even amongst those who knew them, which probably made them feel largely alone.

Then according to the decree of a government that their people were oppressed by, they had to hop on a donkey, possibly putting their new family in jeopardy and make a long trip through the hot desert to go be involved in a census—and who likes those things!

When they finally reached this small, seedy town (according to history, it wasn’t the nicest place to be) far, far away, they would have been feeling the heat, stress and exhaustion from the journey. On top of all that, they were very likely aware that their baby would soon make an appearance and they couldn’t find a vacancy anywhere. (Stop, are you seriously imagining what you’d be going through and what this real mom and dad would be feeling or have you slipped back into the romanticized traditions? Work with me here.)

You’re feeling alone and probably outcast. You’re hot, smelly and tired from a long road trip on a donkey that you did not want to take. Your baby is about to arrive, your probably in need of some home cooked food, and you’re looking forward to a comfortable Inn. Instead, you’re ushered into a cave where the locals bed down their animals. You get settled in, probably hoping that this is all very temporary, and then go into labor. To your dismay, there’s nowhere else to go and there’s no one around to help with the delivery. So your husband is elected in the heat of the moment to deliver your child in the modern-day equivalent of a barn.

Finally the baby arrives. You’re exhausted and ready for some alone time with your beautiful child. You’re also ready for a week’s worth of sleep, hopefully a bath and just then a crowd of sweaty shepherds show up for a visit!

Mary and Joseph were regular people and normal parents. Although I don’t see much of a lesson in the traditional romanticized manger scene, I see a wonderful example for parents today in the reality of what probably happened.

Let me give you a little background. Genesis records that when God first made everything he said it was good. In the beginning, before sin, it was all about God’s blessings, loving him and loving others, marriage, children, eating, working, living and laughing. God created life for us and created within us the matching desire for all of the wonderful joys of this life.

Unfortunately, the record of Genesis didn’t leave us there. Adam and Eve disobeyed God and brought sin and its devastating effects into all of our hearts and lives and into this world.

Jesus repaired what Adam and Eve broke. He gave his life so that everyone of us would again have the opportunity to have our sins forgiven and to live in our heavenly Father’s presence and blessings. However, we still live in a fallen world full of sin and its effects and we’re living in the middle of a war for the souls of billions of our fellow humans. God’s desire is to see all men saved and that desire has been placed in our hearts by God’s Holy Spirit.

So now we live with two God given desires that can often seem to be in conflict. The desire to fully live and enjoy life, and the desire to sacrifice all of that in order to reach out to a broken world.

Jesus addressed this conflict when he called us to seek first his Kingdom and his righteousness, and then told us that all of these things (the things of life that he created for us) would be given to us as well. (Matthew 6:33) Have you ever thought of this verse in the context of parenting and family life?

Notice that he didn’t say that life, children, family etc. were to be ignored or not enjoyed, but only that his Kingdom priorities had to be put first. Which of course makes sense. If you were to live in a country at war, your first difficult priority would be to secure your country otherwise how could you and your family possibly enjoy your life.

Today as Christian people and parents, we struggle weekly with the same conflict and it can be tough to find the balance. We want our children to have a fun life and to be happy, but we don’t want them to get mixed up in the world. We’d like to think that they can enjoy all of the world’s multimedia offerings and not be adversely affected, but we know better. We all love to sleep in on the weekends, but we know that attending church is part of God’s plan for strengthening our families and preparing us for the battle. Each one of us would like to see our children with comfortable, high paying careers, but we also know that it’s God’s will for their lives that’s more important. We are regularly faced with life choices that have us choosing between what we think could give our families a better life, and what is right or what we feel God wants us to do.

Until we realize that the conflict is normal, we sometimes beat ourselves up about it and think that if we were just better Christians, we wouldn’t struggle with these issues. The truth is God wants to bless us and have us learn, laugh, love and live our lives full of his joy and presence, but we are also called to further his Kingdom and he understands that the two often seem to be in conflict.

It’s not always easy to live life or find the right balance when we live with a Wal-Mart flyer in one hand and a book on ‘How Your Family Can Help Win the World for Christ’ in the other. It’s naturally a struggle and every one of us parents (not just you) is trying to find the balance everyday!

An ideal example of this struggle is how we fight to find balance in our Christmas celebrations. In our minds, one side of the equation fights for making Christmas the most fun for our family that it can possibly be. The other side fights for meaning and reminds us of the great opportunity Christmas offers us to reach out to others with love, aid, and the Gospel message. Many of us even struggle to find a balance between time spent focused on Jesus, and time spent focused on Santa and presents. However, if we recognize that it’s normal to struggle with this because both desires are God inspired, then instead of running to one side of the boat or the other and getting our family out of balance, we work towards finding a good mix of both for our family celebrations.

Plan the times of great fun and enjoyment around the moments of meaning, sacrifice and reaching out. Nice gifts for everyone on Christmas morning, but also a family evening packing wonderful things into a shoe box for Operation Christmas Child to deliver to a poor child somewhere in the world. Enjoying your churches Christmas play, but also helping out and inviting someone who hasn’t responded to the Gospel message yet. Putting up lots of fun and beautiful decorations, but also placing a nice manger scene front and center. Serve a large turkey dinner with all the trimmings, but also inviting someone who would not have had a family Christmas dinner otherwise.

When we do these things, get our children involved, and explain why we’re doing them, it helps our children to understand the natural conflict between the joy of living, and the need to focus first on God’s Kingdom and his righteousness.

I really do love manger scenes. I keep mine up all year round. However, the romanticized perfect picture of what Mary and Joseph lived through is not real and can get us thinking that real life, God’s holy calling and purposes are somehow two completely separate things that can’t exist together. It’s not true. Mary and Joseph were very real people who also struggled to live and enjoy their lives and family while they obeyed God, and joined in the fight for billions of souls.

So next time you look at a manger scene, imagine a little dirt on the floor, a look of exhaustion on Mary’s face and a real life struggle in Joseph’s mind, and feel encouraged—you’re in good company!

What does it mean to be a Christian parent?

THE GOOD NEWS (The Gospel)

Why this section?

The main thing that all Christians have in common is that they at one point or another became a Christian. Contrary to some funny ideas in our culture, no one is a Christian because they were born into a Christian family or country. You cannot just be a Christian because you go to church and/or you try your best to be a good person. In order to be a Christian you must have, at one point, become one.

We wrote this section for a few very important reasons. First if you cannot recall a point where you made a decision to become a Christian this section will help you understand what being a Christian is and will help you take the next step. Which is VERY important if you plan on successfully raising your children as Christians.

The second reason is a very simple one, this is the most essential thing that every Christian should know and understand yet many do not. Many of us came to Christ by hearing the Good News and understanding it enough to have experience God’s wonderful forgiveness. That is great, however in order to grow as a Christian, in order to share our faith with others, and more importantly for this web site, in order for us to raise Christian children we need to understand it more thoroughly.

So please, get a cup of coffee or tea, sit back and take the time to read and understand this section and come back and re-read it and perhaps look up the scriptures and study it until you understand it enough to explain it to others, especially to your children.

To those of you who are about to click away because you think you already understand the Good News, stop and read it anyway. You may be surprised at how much more there is to the Good News than we often hear.

 

God’s Plan

It is important that we understand that yes in the beginning God created the heavens and the earth (Genesis 1:1) but before that he had a plan.

The Bible teaches that God realized before he started creating the earth that humankind would make the wrong choice and that he would have to send his own Son to die. (Matthew 25:34, Hebrews 4:3)

 

God’s Love

Think about the love involved in that. If before you had a child you were told that he would be REALLY difficult and cause you a life of grief but that in the end he would turn around and live happily. Would you be tempted to perhaps skip the pain and just not have children? God chose to still move forward for our sakes.

Think about this, Jesus has always been. He was there before, during and after creation (John 1:1 – 4). The Bible says that, “by him all things were created”. So Jesus chose to create us even though he knew that he would have to suffer in order to bring us back to God.

We can all quote John 3:16, For God so loved the world that he gave his only Son… he made that decision because he loved us before any of us were created.

 

God’s Responsibility

Some ask why God chose to send his own Son? Why if he planned it all ahead of time would he decide to do it this way? Well one of the reasons lies in the word ‘responsibility.’ Even our laws hold a parent responsible for the actions of their underage children.

If God knew ahead of time that we would go off track and he still (for our sake) decided to go ahead, then he needed to be responsible for that decision and pay the price himself for bringing us back. That is the loving and responsible thing to do.

 

God’s Step-By-Step Plan

It is important to know that God had this all planned from the start because the Bible is a progressive revelation of God’s plan for humankind. For example the Old Testament writers did not fully understand God’s plan. So when we read the Old Testament it can be difficult to understand unless we look at what we are reading in light of the fact that the writers did not fully understand God, his heart or what he was doing.

When Jesus came he showed us what God was really like and brought the key part of God’s plan into play through his birth, life, death and resurrection. Then the New Testament goes on to explain fully all of what God was doing through the Old Testament and what he did by sending his Son. (God knew that the Bible would start in Genesis and end in Revelation before he started inspiring the first writer. He intended it to be a progressive revelation of himself and unless we read its parts in the context of its whole story and God’s plan we won’t understand it.)

God was never winging it. He knew the beginning from the end and we can be confidant that he is still in control and that we are in the middle of his master plan for us.

 

God’s Garden

Now that we have established that let’s dive into the story. God created the Heavens and the Earth and he created Adam and Eve in his image and breathed into them his life. He created us to be his children.

God spent time with Adam and Eve in the Garden, loving them, teaching them, directing them as a loving Father with his children.

He blessed them and told them to be fruitful and multiply and subdue and manage the Earth. Although he knew that sin would temporarily interrupt the program he gave us a peek into his ultimate intentions for us by showing us a bit about his relationship with Adam and Eve in the Garden.

We were created like God in many ways as his children and he has awesome things in store for us but the ultimate thing he has for us is a relationship and partnership with him. We were meant to walk with him, learn from him and move out and do great things with him.

However because God loves us he gave us a choice; would we love and trust him and receive his love and help or not?

 

God’s Love Lets Us Choose

In order to understand sin and where we went off track we need to look closely at what went wrong in the Garden.

What did Satan do in order to lure the first two away? He called God’s integrity and intentions for them into question.

Genesis 3: 2 - 5 The woman said to the serpent, “We may eat fruit from the trees in the garden, but God did say, ‘You must not eat fruit from the tree that is in the middle of the garden, and you must not touch it, or you will die.’”  ”You will not surely die,” the serpent said to the woman.  ”For God knows that when you eat of it your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God, knowing good and evil.”

Basically, Satan told them that God was lying and that he really could not be trusted to look out for anyone but himself. That is where humankind went off the rails. We chose to doubt the one who lovingly created us, so we disobeyed him instead of trusting him.

We have to understand that, yes, sin is disobeying God, but the root of disobedience (and the key issue) is not trusting God. If we trust his love then we know that what he tells us is always what is best for us. Sin is merely the fruit of doubt and/or distrust.

 

God’s Separation Plan

God had promised that Adam and Eve would die on the day that they ate the fruit. We know that they did not die physically that day, (although sin caused that to happen eventually as well) so what was God referring to? Paul tells us that the death that took place that day was a spiritual death, (Eph. 2:1) which happened when Adam and Eve listened to the father of lies and chose sin.

Adam and Eve’s separation from God or spiritual death was demonstrated by God sending Adam and Eve out of the Garden of Eden. God showed us that it was his desire for Humankind to grow with him and fill and manage the Earth. But we chose to do it on our own terms, so we started out to do it on our own, outside the garden.

It is interesting to note that although we separated ourselves from God and we were spiritually dead (separated from God in our hearts) God never left us. Remember, God knew the beginning from the end. When Adam and Eve’s son killed his brother God spoke to him.

Genesis 4:10 – 14 The Lord said, “What have you done? Listen! Your brother’s blood cries out to me from the ground. Now you are under a curse and driven from the ground, which opened its mouth to receive your brother’s blood from your hand. When you work the ground, it will no longer yield its crops for you. You will be a restless wanderer on the earth.”

Cain said to the Lord, “My punishment is more than I can bear. Today you are driving me from the land, and I will be hidden from your presence; I will be a restless wanderer on the earth, and whoever finds me will kill me.”

Notice that Cain added to what God said. Cain said that he would be hidden from God’s presence, God didn’t say that. God loves us all, sin got in the way but he had a solution for that before he started.

When Adam and Eve sinned all humankind became sinful. Their children and all children ever born were born (like their parents) outside of the Garden and separated from God. Paul explains it in Romans saying that by one man’s sin, sin passed to all humankind (Romans 5:12). Sin gave birth to what the Bible calls the sin nature. When we are separated from God, his light, life and presence we are in darkness. Jesus described it by saying that our father is the devil and we end up wanting to carry out his desires (John 8:44).

So just like Adam, Eve and Cain most of humankind has been running from God and his presence, trying to do it their own way, steeped in sin and darkness ever since.

 

God’s Foundation

At first humankind’s rampage of sin took them so far into darkness that God had to step in like the loving parent of a very disobedient child who needs to be spanked so that they understand that bad behavior has consequences.

God found one guy on the planet that was not actively running from his presence but was choosing despite his sinful nature to trust God. His name was Noah and the flood was the spanking.

Have you ever heard someone refer to the God of the Old Testament and the God of the New Testament? It almost makes it sound like they were two different Gods. But remember the Bible is a progressive revelation of who God is and his plan.

Because humankind had a sinful nature they needed to be treated like a rebellious child and given boundaries with strict consequences to prevent them from completely running amuck while God was putting his plan in place. It was never God’s intention to have this kind of rebellious / punishment relationship with us. It came as a result of our sin and/or lack of trust.

After the flood, humankind (on the whole) went back to their old ways but with a little more caution and with the sinful nature somewhat restrained.

 

God’s Chosen People

The next part of God’s plan was Abraham. God chose a partner man who became a partner couple, then family and then a partner nation to help bring his plan to pass.

God’s plan was not to single out one nation to be his favorites. It was to single out a nation that would assist him in bringing about his ultimate plan of bringing the world back to him. He told Abraham from the beginning that through his seed the nations of the world would be blessed. Paul tells us that the word ‘seed’ is singular and referred to Christ.

Later God appointed Moses to set up some boundaries and consequences for his people to reveal his holiness and expectations to them and to try and keep them on track. So the Old Testament law was put in place. (Paul described the law as a schoolmaster until Christ came.)

 

The Old Covenant

The law became the foundation for a covenant (or a legal agreement) between God and Israel.

The deal was simple. God told Israel that if they obeyed the law and did all that God told them to do then he would be their God, which meant he would teach them, provide for them, protect them, lead them etc. So essentially God outlined the deal this way, if you do your part, I’ll do mine (Jeremiah 11:2 – 5).

It is important to see that through the Old Testament story of God’s dealings with Israel, their disobedience is linked with their trust. Just like what we saw in the Garden of Eden. When Israel and/or individual Israelites did not trust God, they disobeyed God.

Again, God knew the beginning from the end and he knew what the results of this covenant would be. The law could not bring people to God because it couldn’t solve the sin nature problem and trust cannot be demanded. So except for a few shining examples of Israelites who chose to trust God, the law failed to bring the Israelites close to God.

 

God’s New Deal

God spoke through his prophets and announced a New Covenant.

Jeremiah spoke about the New Agreement (Covenant) that was coming and what its terms would be.

“The time is coming,” declares the Lord, “when I will make a new covenant with the house of Israel and with the house of Judah.  It will not be like the covenant I made with their forefathers when I took them by the hand to lead them out of Egypt, because they broke my covenant, though I was a husband to them,” declares the Lord.  ”This is the covenant I will make with the house of Israel after that time,” declares the Lord. “I will put my law in their minds and write it on their hearts. I will be their God, and they will be my people. (Jeremiah 31:31 – 33)

The prophet Ezekiel also wrote about the terms of the new deal.

I will sprinkle clean water on you, and you will be clean; I will cleanse you from all your impurities and from all your idols. I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit in you; I will remove from you your heart of stone and give you a heart of flesh. And I will put my Spirit in you and move you to follow my decrees and be careful to keep my laws. (Ezekiel 36:25 – 27)

So although the prophets did not fully understand it, they announced that it was God’s plan to somehow move the deal from ‘You do your part then I will do mine,’ to I will do my part and I will change you from the inside out and cause you to do your part as well.

This could only be accomplished if sin could be defeated, the sin nature cured and if somehow we could be brought back into God’s presence and if our performance after that could be guaranteed.

The Bible says that the prophets longed to know how God was going to accomplish his plan. Let’s see how it unfolds.

 

God’s Only Son

So when the time was right God pulled the switch on the centerpiece of his plan and Jesus, who always was and always will be God, was born to Mary a virgin.

Why a virgin? For a number of reasons. If he was born of a human sperm he would have been human and he would have had the awful human generational virus called the sin nature. He would have been born a sinner.

Jesus being born without an earthly father shows that he was God’s Son and that he was born without sin or the sin nature. Which was essential because if a criminal is sentenced to death another criminal also sentence to death cannot offer to die in his place because his life is already spoken for to pay for his own crimes.

God established in the Garden from the start that the penalty for sin is death, (spiritual and physical). Remember every one of us was born in sin, separated from God, children of Adam and Eve with a sin nature. Before we sinned once we were sinners and sentenced to death. We are not sinners because we sin, we sin because we are sinners.

 

Jesus’ Life and Death

Jesus was not in the clear yet though. In order to die in our place he needed to be God for the reasons of love and responsibility. He needed to be born sinless and he needed to live a completely sinless life. That was another of God’s purposes for the law. Jesus’ life was to be measured up against it. If he sinned in his life by breaking God’s law (demonstrating mistrust) then again he would be captured by sin like Adam and Eve were.

Fortunately for us, Jesus lived a sinless life and when it was time for him to be falsely accused, beaten and led to the cross, he was ready.

Just before Jesus died he said, “It is finished.” He had done what he had decided to do for us before he created us. He lived, suffered and died in our place. He took responsibility for his children and died in our place for our sins so we wouldn’t have to.

Jesus did not just die for some sin. He died to pay the price for every sin ever committed or would be committed by every human ever past, present and future. That was necessary because his death absolutely stripped sin of its power. It can never again cause an Adam and Eve and remove any of his children from his presence.

Is that justice? Yes, as Paul explains it in Romans five, by one man’s sin (Adam’s) sin ruled over everyone. We were sinners when we were born. But as Paul continues to explain, by the actions of one man (Jesus) sin’s rule was ended. So through Adam we were separated from God through no actions of our own and through what Christ did we can be forgiven and made right with God, again by no actions of our own.

So does that mean that everyone everywhere is saved and on their way to heaven? Sorry, no.

 

Choosing To Trust God

There is a second part to the famous John 3:16, “For God so loved the world that he gave his only Son, so everyone who believes in him will not perish but have eternal life.

We are back where Adam and Eve were. Because Jesus died for us we have the ability to choose to believe and trust God and put our lives in his hands or not. The difference is now, sin cannot take us down because it has been stripped of its power.

Everyone, everywhere now has the ability to choose to become God’s child and have him be their God and Heavenly Father, loving them, directing them, growing, teaching and caring for them.

The words of John 3:16 were spoken by Jesus when he was talking to a Jewish leader named Nicodemus. He also told Nicodemus, “I assure you that unless you are born again, you can never see the Kingdom of God.”

Remember that God told Adam and Eve that they would die the day they ate the forbidden fruit. They died spiritually that day because they were separated from God. Everyone born physically since then has been born spiritually dead, separated from God.

Now through the death and resurrection of Jesus we have the opportunity to reverse the process. When we choose to trust God and believe that he loves us and sent his Son to die for us, he forgives us, removes our sin and reconnects us to him as his child. At that moment our spirit becomes alive again, we are born again.

Paul described the process this way, “For if you confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.” (Romans 10:9)

Jesus said, “I am the way the truth and the life, no man comes to the father but by me.” Some take this as too exclusive. They look at this as an organizational, religious, cultural and sometimes even ethnic exclusive. In other words they view it as a narrow-minded statement that says our group is right and everyone else is wrong.

It is the exact opposite. This famous statement of Christ’s was probably one of the most inclusive statements ever spoken. Remember it was God’s plan to create us as his children and he has awesome things planned for us. He chose the Israelites and gave them an important part to play in his plan to reach all nations.

Jesus died for everyone everywhere no matter what their ethnicity, religious upbringing, culture, no matter their what their sin or past or life or anything else all are invited to come. Jesus was opening up the door to absolutely everyone and he wanted everyone to know how to get in. Not how to get into a different culture or a certain church but how to be forgiven and become a child of God.

 

God’s Invitation

If you have never been born again you are invited right now. No matter who you are, where you are from, what you have done or what you have been through. NO ONE IS EXCLDED. God loves you and his Son Jesus died in your place. You can pray right now no matter where you are. Tell God that you believe in his Son Jesus, ask him to forgive you and make you his child. Put it in your own words, he knows your heart, he will respond to you like a loving father running to meet a son or daughter that he has not seen in awhile and misses terribly.

If you just prayed that you are a child of God, your sins have been forgiven and God has connected you with himself by putting his Spirit in your heart. He now wants to start that relationship with you that he gave us a glimpse of in the Garden. He wants to show you his love, guide and lead you, teach you, grow you and care for you. He wants to hear from you in prayer and start walking with you in your life. You are now part of the New Covenant.

 

Back In The Garden

We have talked earlier about the Old Covenant, and what the prophets said about the New one coming. In the Old God said you do your part and I will do mine.

The prophets said that in the New Covenant God would take away our hearts of stone, give us new hearts and put his Spirit inside us. They said that he would be our God and we would be his people, that God would write his laws on our hearts and that he would cause us to walk in his way.

Paul said that the Good News (Gospel) is the power of God at work saving everyone who believes. He goes on to say that this Good News tells us how God makes us right in his sight and that this is accomplished from start to finish by faith. (Romans 1:16 – 17)

Here is the real Good News. Jesus not only died to get your ticket to heaven punched, through Christ’s death and resurrection he has called you into his presence to be his child and he is not just waiting to see if you are going to live up to his expectations. As you trust him he has promised to teach you and change you from the inside out and cause you to walk in his way and to become all that he originally created you to be. In the New Deal he has promised to do his part and he has promised to cause you to do yours as you trust and allow him. The Good News is from first to last, the same power of God that brought you into his Kingdom will work in you and take you victoriously through this life no matter what great things and hardships you encounter.

You are better than back where Adam and Eve were in the Garden. You have the choice again to walk with God and go out with him, learning from him and expanding the Garden instead of having to leave it. Only through what Jesus did, you cannot fail.

 

God’s Win/Win Deal

God’s plan is so awesome, he had to give us a choice because he loves us and even though he could see that we would walk away for a time and that he would have to suffer, he knew that it would be worth it for us in the long run so he went ahead.

But he planned it so that the very thing that could trip us up, sin, could be made powerless forever. Then to ensure that even our own apathy or inability would keep us from all of what God has for us for all of eternity he undertook to not only guarantee to do his part but to work in us and cause us to do our part!

No wonder the Bible says that God is love!

 

Now What?

I started this section by stating why reading and understanding the Gospel is so important to Christian Parenting. If you have prayed and asked God to make you his child you already can see how essential this step is to you and your children.

If this has happened to you please email us and let us know. But more importantly if you know any Christians that are close to you, tell them and let them help you get started in your walk with God.

If you are a parent, stepparent, grandparent or even planning on being a parent it is very important that you know how to help your children/stepchildren and/or grandchildren understand these foundational truths.

You should be able to get started just because you now understand it more thoroughly.

However if you want to know how to put it simply in a way that kids will understand and also to be prepared for their follow up questions, I highly recommend the book ‘801 Questions Children Ask About God.”

You can sit down with this book with your kids and find the answers to pretty much any question they have about Jesus and their salvation. In doing so you will start those of your children who have not yet become Christians on the road to that decision. And for those who are already Christians you will help strengthen their Faith and put them on the road to understanding it more thoroughly and being able to share it with others.

Happy Christian Parenting!

What role did God intend for the Christian home and family to play in his salvation plan, the Gospel? (Part 3)

So how exactly can God use our Christian families (Christian parents and Christian children) to impact the world and bring God’s blessing to the nations?

I believe he wants us to raise a generation of Christian kids that will do major damage to the gates of hell. Let me explain.

If Israel could become great and powerful by teaching their children to walk with God and keep the Old Covenant how much more can the Body of Christ grow and powerfully impact the nations, according to God’s promise, if we were to teach our children to walk in the power and grace of the New Covenant.

Can you imagine if instead of losing our kids to the world we kept them all in the church. I’m not talking about just having more bodies to warm the pews. I’m talking about a generation that grows up learning God’s Word, walking in relationship with God and growing in his grace. A generation that is excited about being used by God and about taking ground for the Kingdom of God. Like the generation of Israelites that took the Promised Land only each one of these would be under the New Covenant and filled with God’s Spirit.

Right now we try to protect our children from the evil influences of the world and there is a time for that while they are young.

Unfortunately, our children, (for the most part) are not learning about and growing in their Faith during that time. Think about if we taught our children math and science like we teach them their Faith not one of them would ever graduate. So when they get old enough to see what the world has to offer they wander over there to check it out.

Instead we should be training up our children in the Word of God, equipping them with truth, showing them how to grow close to God, walk with him and influence the world for God and change it for his Kingdom. If we did this we would not have to worry about the world affecting our children. The world would have to start to worry about our children changing them.

If we followed God’s plan and raised kids God’s way, we would all leave this world with the Body of Christ stronger and more powerful than it’s ever been.

Do you know why we have youth groups that have to put all their energies into keeping our teens out of the world or retrieving them from it? It is because we have not brought them up in the training and instruction of the Lord. They do not know God, who they are in Christ or what they believe. What they learn from Sunday school and from Bible stories and the occasional Bible reading won’t cut it.

I foresee the day when we won’t need that kind of youth group anymore. If we stuck to God’s program and taught our children well, when they were young, more youth groups would be more like an army headquarters then a long term care hospital.

Think about this, we currently burn out our pastors because a large portion of the congregation is either new to the Faith or they have never really grown in their Faith. While the pastors are getting burned out trying to get a congregation of baby Christians to grow up just a bit, the children of these same people are headed towards the world.

So we burn out the pastor and lose the children. Then when the children who left the church (who never grew up in their Faith) have children of their own, come back and we start the whole process over again.

If we did it God’s way we would focus on the children and grow up a generation of mature Christians who would work with the pastor, reach the world for Christ and train and instruct their children to do the same. The old cycle would be broken and a new cycle of strength and growth would be established.

What God wants to do through families is raise a generation that can have a bigger impact on this world then the one before so that he can bring about his promise to bless all nations.

For more practical and Biblical Christian Parenting ideas we recommend the Christian resource, ‘What Mary and Joseph Knew About Parenting’.

 

 

 

 

(RICK OSBORNE / Christian Author, Speaker & Bible Teacher)

What role did God intend for the Christian home and family to play in his salvation plan, the Gospel? (Part 2)

In part one we talked about how God wants to have salvation and his blessing come to our families. In part two I would like to talk about God’s calling on Christian families and how God wants to work through them.

Let’s go back and take a closer look at the verses about why God called Abraham.

Abraham will surely become a great and powerful nation, and all nations on earth will be blessed through him. For I have chosen him, so that he will direct his children and his household after him to keep the way of the Lord by doing what is right and just, so that the Lord will bring about for Abraham what he has promised him.” (Genesis 18:18, 19) Read more

What role did God intend for the Christian home and family to play in his salvation plan, the Gospel? (Part 1)

When my mother gave her life to Christ and started attending church every Sunday she had a husband, (my step dad) six children (ranging from toddler to adult) and a large extended family. She was understandably worried about how her new Faith would be viewed and if everyone would embrace it as well or reject it and her. She even started taking the youngest of my siblings to Sunday School on her own.

One evening not too long after her decision to live her life for Christ, no matter what the cost, she attended a Gospel dinner with a special Christian speaker. That speaker prayed for her and while he was praying, even though he did not know her or her situation, he said, “Don’t worry, today salvation has come to your house.” Read more

How can I know which children’s bible is the best one for my child? (ages 8-12)

Before I make some suggestions, let me briefly blog about why getting the right Bible for your children in this age group is so incredibly important.
Once we are Christians, the foundation for building our relationship with God is regular time in the Bible and in prayer. Yet how many of us as adults, struggle with this?

My daughter was seventeen when she told me that her and several Christian friends were talking about their time with God and most of them said that they had a real struggle with it. My daughter went on to say that she had not realized that people struggled with this.

If our children are guided through the process of developing a relationship with God progressively, from sitting on our knee right up to doing it on their own, they establish a habit and a relationship that is easy to maintain and difficult to walk away from.

Many Christian parents (dad, mom or both together) do a great job of this in the early years when we are reading Bible Stories and saying prayers with our children. Where the process usually falls apart is when our children become too old for Bible Stories and too old for Sunday School.

Many of us flounder to find a whole text children’s Bible for our children and kind of hope that they will read it and pray on their own.

Unfortunately we find out really quickly that this approach does not work. It is kind of like saying to your child, “Well you’ve had a few years at school now. You know how to learn, so just get on the internet and work your way through to graduation on your own.”

Our children must be taught, trained, encouraged to crawl, walk and then run in every area of learning.
So getting down to it, here are some things to remember and some practical Christian parenting advice on how to move your child from Bible Stories to reading a whole text Bible on their own.

• Include your child in on the growth process. When my children were quite young, I started to tell them regularly that our bedtime devotions together was their time with God. I was helping them learn so that they could eventually do it on their own. The children understood that the activity was about them learning, (we were not just doing it to get it done) and that it was their time to connect with God.  Eventually they would be responsible for this discipline on their own and for the rest of their lives. It is much easier to teach when the student understands the goal and the process. Talk with your child about graduating from Bible Story time and agree on the timing and process.
• Don’t just leave them on their own. As with any transition in life, the more gradual it is the more comfortable and successful the transition will be. You and your child may decide to continue reading and praying together for a while but with a full text Bible instead of a Bible storybook. (This is a good time for you to help them better understand how their Bible is put together and how to read it.) You may want to choose a certain book like one of the Gospels (Matthew, Mark, Luke or John) or Genesis and read through it together. Then they could read one on their own and alternate. You could choose to read together and have them say their prayers on their own or vice versa. When they are ready to do it all on their own, help them set aside a regular time for doing it. Help them be consistent and follow up with them to make sure they have done it. Kind of like you do to make sure they are brushing their teeth. (Remember encouragement is more effective then harassing.) Be aware that if you have had quality time together at night for a while, some kids may be sensitive to losing that. Continue to put some time aside to talk with them and spend a little time together before sending them off to have their time with God. One of the things you can talk about is your time with God, what you are reading and/or what Bible study you are doing and what you are praying about. Ask what you can pray for them and tell them what they can pray for you.
• Set them up with the Bible and materials that will help them be successful. First and foremost choose a modern translation that your child will understand. Next a good strategy is to choose a companion book or devotional guide that will help your child get into and go through their Bible. This helps a ton because picking up the devotional book first is less intimidating and a little more appealing. Be careful though that you choose a book that directs them to their Bibles or the book is the only thing that will get read. When you first get the book and the Bible, look through them together and talk to your child about how to use the materials. Finally once you have narrowed your choices down to a few good Bibles and their companion books, let your child in on the decision. When we start to transfer any responsibility to our children, we should also start to transfer the right to make related decisions.

Here are some Bibles and companion books that I recommend for helping you and your child make the transfer successfully. They are all best selling Christian resources that work well together and are designed for this age group.

The ‘Kids Quest Bible’ works well with the ‘Amazing Questions Kids Ask About…’ series.

      

 

 

 

If you have boys I would highly recommend ‘The 2:52 Boys Bible’ along with the books from the 2:52 nonfiction series.

        

 

 

 

If you already have a Bible for your child or they choose another, I would recommend Focus On The Family’s ‘My Time With God, 150 Ways To Start Your Own Quiet Time.’

 

 

 

 

(RICK OSBORNE / Christian Author, Speaker & Bible Teacher)

What Should I Look For When Buying A Bible Storybook For My Children?

I probably get asked this question and ones like it more often than any other question.

When I first started developing Bibles for children it was in response to the frustration I experienced over the years when trying to find Bibles that I could use with my own children.

At first the publishers I went to with my ideas responded by telling me the market was already glutted with Bible Storybooks.

They were shocked to hear me tell them that unfortunately many of them are useless when it comes to teaching children the Bible.

Let me pass on to you what we should be looking for in a Bible for our kids and why.
I think the first thing we need to ask is what is God’s purpose for the Bible. In a nutshell, the Bible reveals God’s story and plan for humankind, it focuses on God’s salvation plan and brings us to Jesus and it teaches us how to live as Christians.

Should a Bible Storybook for children have the same purpose? Of course, however many are merely a collection of Bible stories that are not linked together to reveal God’s big picture story. They tell stories about Jesus but say nothing about what that means to us and they include very little of the New Testament books that teach us how God wants us to live.

It is probable that the first Bible Storybooks were published in response to the popularity of books that contained collections of stories and/or fables for children. So a clever someone put a bunch of the best stories ever told (the ones in the Bible) together and the cash register has been ringing ever since. Unfortunately we have come to refer to these as Bibles for children instead of what they are, a mere collection of stories from the Bible.

The idea of a Bible Storybook is great and very beneficial but it just needs to be more than just a collection of stories if you truly want your children to learn God’s Word.

So let’s get to it. Here is what to look for.

• Read the ending of several stories and the beginning of the ones that follow. Check to see that the stories are linked together into God’s big story from creation to the second coming.
• Look for the Gospel message. It is great if it has a prayer to pray but it should (like our Bibles do in Romans) explain what Jesus did means to us.
• Look at the table of contents and see where the stories stop. The ones that make an effort to present the Apostles teaching will have stories about the Apostles missionary journeys and the letters they wrote to churches.
• Next it is helpful if the Bible includes a prayer suggestion, a lesson and/or a question or conversation starter after each story that will help you turn story-time into your child’s devotional time.
• Also if you are satisfied with the above move on to check if it is appropriate for your child’s age and attention span. (Less text and more pictures are needed for our younger children and the opposite is needed as our children grow older.)
• Finally, if you are willing to put the least important thing last and you have found a couple of good choices, choose the one with the artwork and packaging that you think will appeal to your child.

 I am happy to report that many others and myself have been working hard to write and create Bible Storybooks that are truly Bibles for children and there are some good choices out there.
Here are a few.

I would highly recommend that you get your children started listening to the Singing Bible. Children love it (ages 1 – 8 ) and it was designed to teach them God’s Big Story, the Gospel and how God wants us to live. It is a great plug and play supplement to your Bible Storybook.

THE SINGING BIBLE (Focus on The Family)

 

 

I should note that some of the above is not as important if you are looking for a Bible for your young toddler so I would also recommend;

For Toddlers (ages 1 – 3)

GOD LOVES ME BIBLE

 

 

 

For Preschoolers (ages 3 – 5)

MEMORY VERSE BIBLE STORYBOOK 

 

 

 

For ages 4 – 8 

BEDTIME BIBLE (Focus on The Family)

 

 

 

 

(RICK OSBORNE / Christian Author, Speaker & Bible Teacher)